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14 Year Old Child Bride Facing Death Penalty for Murdering Husband -

Saturday, November 29, 2014

BREAKING: New Coal Disaster In West Virginia -

Tuesday, February 11, 2014

U.S. Hostage Freed by Colombia’s FARC Rebels (Video) -

Monday, October 28, 2013

Here’s Why The Zimmerman Verdict Matters -

Sunday, July 14, 2013

BREAKING! UK Government Spied On Allies At TWO G20 Summits (Video) -

Sunday, June 16, 2013

Swiss Support Tougher Asylum Legislation as Refugee Numbers Spike -

Monday, June 10, 2013

American Woman Killed in Syria Fighting for Terrorists, Syrian TV Claims (Video) -

Friday, May 31, 2013

CO2 in the Air Reached its Highest Level in Human History -

Friday, May 10, 2013

Terms of the New Abortion Bill Agreed by Irish Cabinet -

Wednesday, May 1, 2013

Boston In Lockdown As Manhunt Intensifies -

Friday, April 19, 2013

2 Dead, Dozens Injured After Boston Marathon Bombing -

Monday, April 15, 2013

Fast Food Workers in New York Stage Surprise Strike -

Saturday, April 6, 2013

N. Korean Rhetoric Provokes Missile Shield Deployment -

Wednesday, April 3, 2013

Eyewitness Accounts from Meiktila Massacre -

Wednesday, April 3, 2013

Sudan to Free All Political Prisoners -

Monday, April 1, 2013

A New Free Press In Burma Juxtaposed With Genocide: The World Will Be Watching -

Friday, March 29, 2013

Pressure Builds to End Ethnic Violence in Myanmar -

Friday, March 29, 2013

Activists Demand Action As Further Genocide Looms -

Tuesday, March 26, 2013

Cyprus Reaches Last-Minute Bailout Deal With EU -

Monday, March 25, 2013

Myanmar Muslims Brace for Possible Genocide -

Sunday, March 24, 2013

“Be In Love With Love”

I have been married for 30 years…going on 31. And with Illinois poised to become the 10th state to recognize gay marriage, I feel I get to talk about marriage and marriage equality. Marriage is hard, staying together is hard, building a life together is hard…and everyone should have the opportunity to give it a go.

The best advice I’ve read on keeping a love match going (which is “traditional” marriage for the last 100 years or so) came from two men who were together for 60(!) years. A series in the Oregonian newspaper called “Northwest Love Stories” highlighted their union, and when asked for advice for new couples, they said

“...be in love with love”.

They also said “The main thing that I come back to is commitment. You have to decide from the very beginning whether it’s going to be a committed relationship for a long period or if it’s just going to be as long as it lasts. Which is what most people do. They fall in love with lust instead of love. And they think that when the sex starts getting bad, that’s the end of the relationship. That’s the beginning of the relationship! That’s when you start working on it.

Their story could be anybody’s story, how they met, the things they do to keep their love and union fresh, to demonstrate their commitment to each other. What they do is the framework in which to create a family…it need not include a child or the ability to procreate. If you’d like children, then the proper framework is there. Not everyone should procreate, or wants to procreate, or add to the  burden to the overpopulated planet and that is why marriage is about a union that creates bond and strengthens community. That is the new tradition.

Arguments from the Right for their version of “traditional” marriage are sounding increasingly whiny and petty. As heard during a discussion on this episode of Think Out Loud, a spokeswoman for the Protect Marriage Oregon Coalition brought out the same stale points:  “marriage is separate and different from other loving relationships since it is made up of two people who can procreate”.

The procreation argument has become even more ridiculous considering the myriad ways to become pregnant or father a child, regardless of sexual orientation. Another fear is that children will be taught about same-sex marriage is the same as ‘traditional’ marriage in school; kindergarten and first grade. That story from Massachusetts been debunked, yet the fear that students will be taught ‘tolerance’ or anti-bias curriculum which is ‘anti-American’ remains.

It was only a little less than a hundred years ago that my grandmother balked at the ‘traditional’ marriage based on a match made by her parents and she fought for a love match with the man who would be my grandfather. Twenty-six years after that, my mother chose a love match, outside of the ‘traditional’ marriage of ethnic partners, with the Irishman who would be my father. The cost was his family disowning him (except for one sister) and having no contact because he married an Italian woman.

Traditional marriage is for love, for the right to make decisions together, to create stable families and communities, and to see each other through the end of life.

Gay Marriage Worldwide 2000-2013

Gay Marriage Worldwide 2000-2013

Ten Countries around the world recognize same-sex marriage. In March the Supreme Court will begin hearing the cases to decide if the Defense of Marriage Act (1996) is unconstitutional and whether Prop 8 in California, which outlaws same-sex marriage, should be struck down. Are we prepared to make ‘traditional’ marriage available to all who love or only to those continue to discriminate based on sexual orientation?  Because there is no other argument to make.

k.m.f. (9 Posts)

Juvenile justice advocate and educator currently managing a program in youth corrections for enrichment in the arts, life skills training, and transitions services for young men 16-24 years old for successful reintegration into community. Advocating for justice issues, including incorporating Restorative Justice Principles into our current system of crime and punishment, ending the school to prison pipeline, and addressing mandatory minimum sentences. Working to break down stereotype and stigma of juveniles with adult felonies returning to society. M.S.Ed Leadership in Ecology, Culture, and Learning with 20 years of experience in formal and informal education, services and advocacy for at-risk youth, victims of domestic violence and refugee resettlement. Writing from the multiple perspectives of environmental health educator, restorative justice practice, and former law enforcement officer. Trying to live as wide as she does long...